— man/myth/geek

I guess I’m getting older. Sometimes, I’ll think of a time when kids were just too damn cruel to each other. Looking at some of us now, we’re fairly well-adjusted, no harm done. I have two instances I wish I could have fixed when I was younger.

One instance is when, in eighth grade, we had this kid who occasionally attended our church. He was poor. Dirt poor. Unfortunately, he caught absolute hell because his family couldn’t afford to go to K-Mart and buy him some cheap-ass K-Mart clothes like everyone else. He walked around in 70′s butterfly collars and assorted clothes that must have been hand-me-downs – I say this, because Goodwill has fairly modern clothes that I’ve wore proudly through the years.

He was a fairly handsome kid, had flowing sandy blond hair and blue eyes. But I only remember the last time I saw him before he stopped going to our school. The week before, his dad shaved his head. Just being an asshole, I guess. And that, coupled with his clothes, just socially crippled the kid. He left our school bus, jumped into a puddle in front of his shack of a house and that was the last we saw of him.

I guess I wish I was a better kid. I got the hell picked outta me, but I was a good kid. I had poor friends, people who lived in shacks, etc and never treated them differently….I didn’t know they were different. Partially, I believe, this was because I was raised by my Grandparents and their depression-era upbringing.

I guess I wish I invited him over to ride bikes. Something to at least atone for treating him like he wasn’t human.

Why do I think of this, some 20+ years later? Who knows.

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Neat concept, stolen from the New York Times’ “Sunday Routine” section.

I normally get up around 9am. As I get older, I realize that I still can wake up at 7 without an alarm clock, due to my Walker County School System-bred education. But the same can be said for my post-graduate life, of waking up at 9.

We usually have a few options since Niki is always up before I am. We’ll either watch a movie or CBS Sunday Morning and she’ll fix something like muffins or I’ll fix eggs and bacon or we’ll just have cereal. Usually the movies are something we’ll DVR and collectively watch while I spend time on the laptop, while trying to read Sunday papers online. Our last option is going out for breakfast, usually something more substantial than a McBiscuit…..BoJangles, Cracker Barrel, or Huddle House.

After breakfast, we’ll usually go out to thrift shops. Ok, I’ll admit it, we love used shit. We’ll look through furniture or clothes then run to a used CD spot. Kinda bohemian, the lives we live of being in our 30′s and childless.

After our “fun” shopping, we usually spend this time either grocery shopping for our week or for dinner. Then we’ll come home and here’s where it can veer off:  Nik will usually start cleaning while I get ready for band practice. I typically warm up for about 15 minutes then hop in the car for a 30 minute drive to rehearsal.

Once I get to practice, I setup my drums have a beer and maybe  light dinner. We go through songs, which can either be a quick run (7 songs) or where it takes us….runs as late as 10. When I leave, I usually grab something for a bite before I get home or I’ll eat a quick sandwich before bed.

If I get home early enough, we’ll watch Family Guy and something else before I head to  bed around 10:30. After the hospital stay and the weeks at home, I just found I can’t stay up late and be charged for Monday morning. So, I’m becoming an old man and just let the sleep get me early.

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